Silence is learned by the many misfortunes of life. Thyestes

If there were a distinguished person whose life, by birth and conditions, belonged especially to the same earthly dissimilarity, a distinguished person who would not assent to this divisive conspiracy against the universally human, that is, against the neighbor, if he did not have the heart to do this, if, clearly perceiving the consequences, he still trusted in God for the strength to bear these consequences while he lacked the strength to harden his heart ... the distinguished corruption would accuse him of being a traitor and self-lover—because he wanted to love the neighbor. Works of Love

Only the shallow know themselves.  Phrases and Philosophies for the use of the Young

Thou sufferest justly: for thou choosest rather to become good to-morrow than to be good to-day. Book VIII