Quotes

Commitment allows you to focus intently on a few highly important goals and achieve a greater degree of success than you otherwise would.

Pursuing a breadth of experience denies us the opportunity to experience the rewards of depth of experience.

Conflict is not only normal, then; it’s absolutely necessary for the maintenance of a healthy relationship.

People with strong boundaries are not afraid of a temper tantrum, an argument, or getting hurt.

Entitled people (…) avoid rejecting anything because doing so make them or someone else feel bad.

We need some sort of existential crisis to take an objective look at how we’ve been deriving our meaning in our life, and then consider a changing course.

We can be truly successful only at something we’re willing to fail at.

Improvement at anything is based on thousands of tiny failures, and the magnitude of your success is based on how many times you’ve failed at something.

There’s a certain comfort that comes with knowing how you fit in the world. Anything that shakes up that comfort – even if it could potentially make your life better- is inherently scary.

The man who believes he knows everything learns nothing.

Certainty is the enemy of growth.

Taking responsibilities for our problems is far more important, because that where the real learning comes from.

Nobody is ever responsible for your unhappiness, but you.

We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.

Often the only difference between a problem being painful or being powerful is a sense that we chose it, and that we are responsible for it.

(…) Self-improvement is really about prioritizing better values, choosing better things to give a fuck about.

What are the values that you prioritize above everything else, and that therefore influence your decision-making more than anything else?

When we force ourselves to stay positive it all times, we deny the existence of life’s problems. And when we deny our problems, we rob ourselves of the chance to solve them and generate happiness.

Everything we think and feel about a situation ultimately comes back to how valuable we perceive it to be.

The rare people who do become truly exceptional at something do so not because they believe they’re exceptional. On the contrary, they become amazing because they’re obsessed with improvement. And that obsession (…) stems from an unerring belief that they are, in fact, not great at all.